use node-tar for extract

we will switch over our tgz module to node-tar. Main advantage is that
it is used by npm. Currently, we have our own fork to ignore stat errors
in the other module.

unfortunately, I cannot get this to work with the create logic. It doesn't
support path modification - https://github.com/isaacs/node-tar/issues/271
so, will revert this immediately and keep this for future

package.json

@@ -55,6 +55,7 @@
     "semver": "^7.6.2",
     "speakeasy": "^2.0.0",
     "superagent": "9.0.1",
+    "tar": "^7.4.0",
     "tar-fs": "github:cloudron-io/tar-fs#ignore_stat_error",
     "tldjs": "^2.3.1",
     "ua-parser-js": "^1.0.38",